Therapy for Men
in the Prime of Life
Transformative Personal Therapy In McLean, VA
Is for Men
Many men avoid therapy, even when they’d receive great benefit from it.
Men avoid therapy for a number of reasons. Many are raised with the idea that men shouldn’t discuss their feelings or show vulnerability. The strong, silent male has long been a cultural image.
Especially for men born in the 1950s through the 1970s, displaying emotion may be difficult. It affects perceptions of masculinity. It also suggests that you’re not in control.
And many men are told they should be emotional, vulnerable, or sensitive in ways which resemble women’s reactions, which can make them feel uncomfortable and unwilling to seek therapy. Therapy should allow emotions to emerge in away which fits the man.
Only one-third of mental health therapy clients are men. But men need therapy at rates similar to women. Therapy done well can resolve many issues and lead to greater happiness and satisfaction, both professionally and personally.
It helps everyone work with or solve problems in their personal, family, or professional lives.
Many social and mental dynamics help form us into the people we are. Some of those dynamics do excellent work.
Others...not so much.
For example, we grow up with examples of adults in our lives -- parents, relatives, and friends. Absent fathers may affect your views of being a father and of being a man.
Some of those views may provide benefits, but many times, they produce false expectations and misleading effort. These may cause pain for yourself or others, rather than positive relationships.
Many men are also raised with the idea that men should not show their emotions, hiding feelings of vulnerability or inadequacy. These ideas may make it difficult to seek therapy, even when your logic says that therapy is the right thing to do.
Therapy for Men is Like Going
to the Gym
Most men go to the gym at some point. Ideally, you stick with it once you get into the workout routine best for you.
The gym’s personal trainer will guide you to the best routine. They’ll help you find the right workout for what you want--from simply being in better condition to sharply-defined muscles.
Your therapist is your personal emotional trainer, helping you to learn how to use your emotional muscles. You may not be used to using them, and at first they may be stiff and sore--just like your muscles after starting at the gym.
As you work with your trainer/therapist, however, you’ll find that you are better able to express yourself. You’ll be more focused on your relationships at home and at work.
Just like your decision to start working out at the gym, you’re looking to create a better, healthier version of yourself.
One additional benefit of therapy is letting go of the idea that you have to fix everything. You’ll find that therapy helps you find the place where you can let of of things you’re unable to control.
Letting go also helps in your relationships -- with your wife, children, colleagues, and others. You’ll build their trust in you, and you’ll also find you can trust yourself.
To begin therapy and help you find your place in your life, please call or email me today.